Not everyone has someone. We oftentimes get so busy in life that we forget to look around at all the people that are left alone during the Holiday Season. It is sometimes difficult to see, I will admit, because so often we learn at an early age to place a mask on our face and pretend all is well.
So many of us spending the holidays alone smile, talk about other people's Thanksgiving or Christmas with their families and pretend we are fine.
We may mention we are alone, but pretend it doesn't hurt, and that it doesn't matter, but really it does. It hurts deep some years and our hearts yearn for our children or our families to be close, but they aren't. Some are lost in time and space, some have passed on and others just simply want to believe we are already dead. Regardless of what their situation is, whether they messed up or whether they are pretending all is well, it cuts deep just the same.
No one wants to describe that pain that is felt with loss or with being alone during the holidays, but one thing I know to be true is the love of Jesus and how He fills that loss inside of our hearts if we ask Him to and search after His love to fill us. He longs for us to open our hearts to Him and He WILL step close and help us feel His love inside of us.
One thing I have found to be true during the Holiday Season is that I am not the only one without family close by me. I stopped thinking I was alone when I went to work at the hospital several years ago and found lots of sick people alone just the same. Some had messed up or made mistakes and others had not. These people were not just alone, however, they were alone and sick; laying in a hospital bed.
I was not correct in my thinking anymore that it was just me and that I was a bad person like I had been told all those years. I began to realize that lots of people in this world need the love of God to fill their hearts just like I did and still do. Lots of people make mistakes. Maybe it's time to really forgive that person that hurt you and stop taking life out on them. Stop trying to make their life miserable or you might wake up one day and realize they found what the meaning of life really is and you still don't get it.
God is a God that steps into our lives to meet our needs and fill our hearts. Whether you are the one alone this holiday season, or possibly the one making someone else feel or be alone. Allow God to step into your heart and fill it today. You won't be sorry you did it.
Rachel Everhart RN